By the time I’m through with writing this, most of you will
probably be ready to kill me, but that’s okay. Today I’m straying from my regular types of posts and
talking about modesty. Girls, this one is for you. Guys…go throw something
around in the yard.
I’m not talking about modesty in the sense of “cover that
up, and lengthen that out, and loosen that area- it’s too tight.” We all know
that pretty well, and it’s hard to argue with the verses in the Bible that talk
about this type of modesty directly.
But the type of modesty I want to talk about is more of an
attitude, and an area that I have really struggled with.
Now before I go too far, let me just say that I’m not saying
everyone needs to wear floor length gray dresses, with their hair down and no
cosmetics or jewelry whatsoever. That’s just silly and I don’t think the Bible
promotes that.
But there are some clothes-though technically modest when
it comes to coverage and whatnot- that can be immodest by the attitude they
portray.
Because I’m a little more of a crazy kid, I’m going to use
the punk, gothic, rocker type look. I’m not sure what exactly it’s officially
called, but if you type any of those words into pinterest you get pretty much
the same style of clothes all three times. I like the arm warmers, and the
corset style lacings on everything, and the black and bright colors, and the
crazy hair and makeup. I like that stuff and always have. Which has caused
problems between me and my dad because he doesn’t look at the fact that, yes,
my body is covered up the way it is supposed to be. He looks at the fact that almost
everyone else he sees wearing those types of clothes (singers, actors, etc.)
are not living a Godly lifestyle. They are doing drugs, and drinking, and
living immorally. So even though I’m covered, those types of clothes make him
(and other people) think about those types of people, and it gives an immodest
impression. See what I mean?
This has been a hard reality for me to swallow, but I
actually do have to agree with it. Now I’m not saying that you can’t wear arm
warmers, or have a lace up purse, or wear leggings. I’m not saying that. But I
think if you wear all of that, plus dye your hair purple and get it chopped off
in some crazy cut and wear makeup like a raccoon…yeah. That could be a problem.
Now clothes do not make the lifestyle. Just because I wear
eyeliner doesn’t make me Goth
But lifestyles do make clothes.
Ever notice that?
Go look at
your typical gangster/wangster. They all pretty much dress alike right? Baggy
pants, flat brimmed hats, probably have some tattoos and piercings. Right? When
we see someone in walmart dressed like that, we label them as a wangster. Do we
know they are for sure? No. But do their clothes give that impression? You bet.
It’s the same way with the way we dress.
We may not be consciously asking for attention, and saying
“look at me! I’m different!”. We may not be thinking, “I want to look sexy”, “I
want to look cool” or anything like that. But if we wear the types of clothes that
people who are trying to convey those
messages wear, then we are conveying
those messages.
Step over to the makeup and tattoo department with me for
some examples. I love to wear makeup. It kind of drives my dad crazy because he’s
more of the type to think natural is prettier. And I’ll agree to a certain
extent because there are different styles
of makeup. Most women you see are wearing makeup, and yes, they look nice,
but that just it. They’re wearing makeup. And then there’s those women where
you’re like “Holy Guacamole did I miss the Halloween party?” It draws
attention. And I find that in general, the type of attention it draws isn’t the
good kind of attention.
Consider the Bible verse-
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of
plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;1 Peter
3:3 KJV
He’s talking about hair, and accessories. He didn’t even
mention cleavage, and skin tight pants. Those ‘little’ aspects of our wardrobe
play a part. We may think we’re just wearing a different style of eye shadow,
but our Christian guys at youth group might start thinking it looks smoking
hot. And then the mind wanders. We do a favor to ourselves and the men around
us when we promote a modest attitude.
I’ll use tattoos as another example. I know lots of people
throw around the “make no mark on your body” verse and I think that’s probably
a good reason to stay away from tattoo’s, but I will agree that it is talking
about making marks for the dead, and a lot of people think that puts tattoos in
the safe area.
But what about this verse.
Abstain from all appearance of
evil.1 Thessalonians 5:22 KJV
That says stay away from all appearance of evil. If we’re totally honest with ourselves, we
should come to the conclusion that tattoos do have the appearance of evil. Go
google tattoos if you don’t believe me. Sure, there’s some tiny little words,
or a cute dolphin, but there’s also inappropriate images and words. And even if
the tattoo itself isn’t evil, take a look at whose wearing it. I’ll bet you 9
out of 10 people you see there are pretty darn scary huh? Would you want to
hang out with them? Be in a car with them? Meet them out on the street? I doubt
it. It gives the appearance of evil. And we’re supposed to stay away from that.
As Christians, sometimes we like to say “I am a Christian, I
just like to wear this, say this, be this, etc.” But the truth is, we are Christians.
Little Christs. We’re not supposed to look like any of that other stuff. It’s
of the world. We’re supposed to look like Christ. We’re not supposed to look
like we’re Christians who wish they weren’t. Like we’re Christians who want to
go to heaven but keep all the other stuff the world has to offer. When we start
modeling aspects of our life, such as our wardrobe, after the world, it takes
away from our testimony. For some reason people who aren’t saved sure do know a
lot about the Bible. They know we’re supposed to be modest. And when they see
us dressing like them, they notice. And they think our faith doesn’t matter. I
know you’ve heard it thousands of times before, but what we wear really does
matter, and it’s the little things that maybe matter most of all.